6 Kinds of Relationships
- Interact 500-2500 people a year
- Jesus constant crowds – sick, demon possessed, needed, mental illness, disciples, critics
- How did Jesus remain healthy & have relationships w/unhealthy people
3 Ways to View People
John 2:24-25 (NLT), “But Jesus didn’t trust them, because he knew all about people. No one needed to tell him about human nature, for he knew what was in each person’s heart.”
- Naive
- Paranoid
- Discerning
Treat Different People Differently
Proverbs 24:1-3, 5-7 Be not envious of evil men, nor desire to be with them, for their hearts devise violence, and their lips talk of trouble…A wise man is full of strength, and a man of knowledge enhances his might, for by wise guidance you can wage your war, and in abundance of counselors there is victory. Wisdom is too high for a fool; in the gate he does not open his mouth.
Wise People
Proverbs 9:8-9 “…correct the wise, and they will love you. Instruct the wise, and they will be even wiser. Teach the righteous, and they will learn even more.”
- No one is wise in every area
Wise – not smart
1. Humble
2. Teachable
3. Embraces Reality
4. Empathy
5. Responsible
6. Seeks to learn & grow
7. Welcomes messenger
Foolish People
Proverbs 1:7“…fools despise wisdom and discipline.”
Proverbs 26:3 “Guide a horse with a whip, a donkey with a bridle, and a fool with a rod to his back!”
- Everyone foolish in areas & at times
Foolish – not dumb = Pastoral
1. Proud (conflict)
2. Unteachable
3. Denies Reality
4. Selfish (low empathy)
5. Irresponsible Victim
6. Wants others to change, not them
7. Shoots messenger
Evil People
Proverbs 2:12-15 “Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted. These men turn from the right way to walk down dark paths. They take pleasure in doing wrong, and they enjoy the twisted ways of evil. Their actions are crooked, and their ways are wrong.”
1. Dangerous
2. Righteous victim
3. Tormented & tormenting
4. Hurt & hurting
5. Entitled
6. Threatening
7. Bitter envy & selfish ambition
6 Kinds of Relationships
- Wise + Foolish = parental relationship
- Wise + Evil = distant relationship
- Foolish + Foolish = codependent relationship
- Foolish + Evil = abusive relationship
- Evil + Evil = dangerous relationship
- Wise + Wise = healthy relationship
