Song of Solomon #6 – My Dove

In this sermon from Song of Solomon 6:2-6:10, the big fight has arrived. Pastor Mark and Grace share the key in any relationship, especially in a marriage, is to repent plus forgive to maintain the relationship. That marriage can be hell up or heaven down, depending on the heart of the marriage.



Song of Solomon 6:2-6:10

  • Big fight
  • He came home late, she rejected him, punished him, & kept her door locked
  • He walked away
  • Reunited


6:2-3 My beloved has gone down to his garden, to the beds of spices, to browse in the gardens and to gather lilies. I am my beloved’s and my beloved is mine; he browses among the lilies.


6:4-9 You are as beautiful as Tirzah, my darling, as lovely as Jerusalem, as majestic as troops with banners. Turn your eyes from me; they overwhelm me. Your hair is like a flock of goats descending from Gilead.  Your teeth are like a flock of sheep coming up from the washing. Each has its twin, not one of them is missing.  Your temples behind your veil are like the halves of a pomegranate.  Sixty queens there may be, and eighty concubines, and virgins beyond number;  but my dove, my perfect one, is unique, the only daughter of her mother, the favorite of the one who bore her. The young women saw her and called her blessed; the queens and concubines praised her.


6:10 Who is this that appears like the dawn, fair as the moon, bright as the sun, majestic as the stars in procession?

Repentance + Forgiveness = Relationship

  1. Repentance

·        fully owning your part/failure/sin

·         Not excusing, denying, pretending, blame shifting

  1. Forgiveness

·         Jesus death on the cross, sponge, prayer

·         Jesus teaching – 70X7, “from the heart”

·         Jesus standing in Heaven (Acts 7 Stephen)

·         Luskin “The Forgiveness Project”

·         Naomi/Mara Ruth 1:20

Ephesians 4:26–27, 29-32 Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil…Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Hebrews 12:14–16 Strive for peace with everyone, and for the holiness without which no one will see the Lord. See to it that no one fails to obtain the grace of God; that no “root of bitterness” springs up and causes trouble, and by it many become defiled; that no one is sexually immoral or unholy

3. Relationship

  • Cities may be favorites & Tizrah is beautiful (1 Ki. 16), & Jerusalem (Ps. 50:2)
  • “beautiful” “lovely” “majestic” “perfect” “unique”
  • = “eyes, hair, teeth, face,
  • Repeats comments from their dating & honeymoon
  • = I still love you, my heart has not changed

= MARRIAGE IS A. HEAVEN DOWN OR B. HELL UP (Cup of Water illustration)

Discussion Question:

In a private conversation with your phones off looking at one another, with a lot of love and grace, have a healthy conversation take turns owning and repenting of sins against one another, forgive one another from the heart, and pray for one another without getting angry or having an argument so you can dig up your roots of bitterness once and for all.

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