Win Your Marriage War

This marriage sermon from Pastor Mark is based on the book "Win Your War" and the idea that Satan wants to break family in the seen and unseen realm but God wants to build family in the seen and unseen realm.

Win Your Marriage War 

Honeymoon – “you have an enemy. you are not the enemy” 4 people in marriage

  • Years later “I’m not your enemy”

= Spiritual Warfare & Marriage should be the same category

= What God creates, Satan counterfeits


God Builds Family in the Seen Realm

Romans 8:14–16 all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!” The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God,

  • OT – “I will be their God, and you will be my people”
  • NT – Family language –  Father & Son; fathers/mothers, brothers/sisters
  • Spirit adopts us into God’s family
  • Matt. 6:9 “Our [family] Father” – new 1). Father 2). Big Brother 3). Family


God Builds Family in the Unseen Realm

Job 38:4-7 “Where were you when I laid the foundation of the earth?  Tell me, if you have understanding. Who determined its measurements—surely you know!  Or who stretched the line upon it? On what were its bases sunk, or who laid its cornerstone, when the morning stars sang together and all the sons of God shouted for joy?

God’s Divine Family

angels, watchers, holy ones, hosts, the seat of the gods, court in judgment, the host of heaven, the prince of the host, cherubim, seraphim, archangels, the commander, prince chief, lord, divine counsel, stars, morning stars, sons of God 

“Stars” – ancient language for angels, between us & heavens

  • angels 300X Bible, roughly 90% of the books
  • “innumerable angels”, “a thousand thousands and 10k X 10k “
  • 3 named angels Michael, Gabriel, Lucifer? (Isaiah 14:12 KJV, NKJV)
  • Cat’s – (archangel, commander, cherubim/seraphim, guardian, church Rev 2-3)

“Sons of God”, “the gods”

  • No human body, gender, physical limitation
  • No divine attributes or qualities
  • Undercover (Heb. 13:2)


Satan Breaks Family in the Unseen Realm

Revelation 12:7-9 Now war arose in heaven, Michael and his angels fighting against the dragon. And the dragon and his angels fought back, but he was defeated, and there was no longer any place for them in heaven. And the great dragon was thrown down, that ancient serpent, who is called the devil and Satan, the deceiver of the whole world—he was thrown down to the earth, and his angels were thrown down with him.

  1. The war is always over singular headship & plural leadership
  2. A family in God’s presence is not exempt from spiritual warfare
  3. Being in God’s presence is not enough, God’s presence needs to be in you
  4. This is the Problem behind all other problems
  5. Every war is part of the Great War


Satan Breaks Family in the Seen Realm

Genesis 2:24-3:13,24 a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh….the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed. Now the serpent…said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” And the woman said to the serpent…God said ‘You shall not eat of the fruit of the tree that is in the midst of the garden, neither shall you touch it, lest you die.’”…she took of its fruit and ate, and she also gave some to her husband who was with her, and he ate. Then the eyes of both were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made themselves loincloths. And they…hid themselves from the presence of the Lord God among the trees of the garden. But the Lord God called to the man and said to him, “Where are you?” And he said, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.”…The man said, “The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me fruit of the tree, and I ate.”…The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”…[God] drove out the man, and at the east of the garden of Eden he placed the cherubim and a flaming sword that turned every way to guard the way to the tree of life.


  1. Where has Satan showed up in your marriage?
  2. What has Satan been saying about you and your marriage?
  3. How are you blame-shifting for your husband (the devil made me do it)?


  1. Where are you?
  2. Do you realize that if you do not lead your family, Satan will?
  3. Do you believe you married the wrong woman?
  4. What does blameshifting look like for you?
  5. Are you looking for a good time or a good legacy?

Husbands & Wives

  1. What is your forbidden fruit?
  2. The storyline of the Bible is that the war comes after the wedding
  3. Just as the Dragon came down from Heaven, so did the Dragon Slayer

Genesis 3:15 I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and her offspring; he shall bruise your head, and you shall bruise his heel.”

= There are not 2 people in your marriage but 3 and only works with 4

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