Malachi

This Is Perhaps the Most Awkward Daily Devotion of All Time

Malachi 2:3: “Behold, I will rebuke your offspring, and spread dung on your faces, the dung of your offerings, and you shall be taken away with it.”

Growing up, my kids watched a lot of animated Bible stories and fun Christian shows like the Veggie Tales. This verse was never an episode. Admittedly, this is a bit of a surprising verse and much worse than having egg on your face in what will perhaps set a new record for most awkward daily devotion of all time. But, since I’m teaching through Malachi, let’s assume that “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable” (2 Timothy 3:16). God doesn’t waste words, so why is this in His Word?

Like any conversation, context is crucial. Malachi is the last book of the Old Testament, and in it, God is giving a performance review of sorts to His leaders, the priests. They were supposed to teach people the Word of God and lead people in the Way of God. After this book was written, there would be 400 years during which no more books of the Bible would be written and then Jesus would come. If the preachers and teachers did not teach the Word of God then the people would not be ready for the Son of God.

God was telling them that since dung was coming out of their mouths with false teaching, He would smear it on their mouth unless they stopped. The word used here means unclean as unclean leaders were offering unclean sacrifices to God and teaching unclean doctrines about God. The word refers to part the part of the sacrifice that was defiled and taken out of town to be burned (Ex. 29:14; Lev. 4:11-12, 8:17). In the strongest possible language, God is telling them that what they are saying and doing is disgusting to Him. The problem was, outwardly, these looked like pious holy religious leaders. Externally, they looked wonderful to man, but internally they looked woeful to God. So, unless they changed what was inside them, God would reveal outwardly who they truly were internally for all to see.

Why does God use such strong language? There are at least three reasons.

One. God rarely uses strong language. He only uses it on occasion to grab the attention of people who have not listened to anything else and are running headlong into trouble. If you’ve ever raised our voice, changed your tone, or picked a colorful word as a last resort to get someone to listen then you understand how this works. Since God uses such language sparingly, we should do the same.

Two. It’s important that we use good words for good things and bad words for bad things. When our language is not clear, our morality becomes unclear. God sets this example. Here, God is speaking to families of ministry leadership called the priests. The adult kids were serving with their parents and all that they knew they learned from their parents. Rather than echoing God, the next generation of leaders is echoing their parents so God corrects everyone clearly.

Three. The goal of the strong language God is using is a passionate plea to get them to change their ways before it’s too late. This is not merely crassness or purposeless, it is crafted and purposeful. When God says, “if…then”, He is warning them as time is running out.

Is there anything in your life that God has recently turned up the volume on to get your attention?

Taking God’s Word to Heart

Malachi 2:1-2: “And now, O priests, this command is for you. If you will not listen, if you will not take it to heart to give honor to my name, says the LORD of hosts, then I will send the curse upon you and I will curse your blessings. Indeed, I have already cursed them, because you do not lay it to heart.”

There’s an old adage that says perhaps God gave us two ears and one mouth because we should listen twice as much as we speak. That insight holds a hold of truth.           

The God of the Bible is a relational God. Because God is relational, He also speaks to us and wants us to listen. The problem addressed in Malachi is one that is true in every day. Leaders who were supposed to listen to God and then echo His instruction to the people were not listening. We don’t know exactly why. Maybe their life was a mess and they didn’t want to change? Maybe the powerful people, big donors, and exhausting religious types in their ministry would declare war on them if they told them everything that God said to say? Maybe they were lazy and didn’t like to go to all the work of studying and teaching God’s Word?           

Whatever the reason, the result was ruining both the leaders and their followers. In our relationship with God, everything rises or falls with our willingness to listen. Here is a little equation to help simplify things:

Listening + Obeying = Honoring

Taking something in our ears is much easier than welcoming it into our heart. That means we are supposed to love the truth, obey the truth, and submit to the truth. When God speaks (and He always is starting with the Bible and our conscience both lead by the Holy Spirit), we have two options on how to respond. There’s a clue in this Scripture as God is called “the LORD of hosts”. That little phrase is pregnant with military meaning and refers to God ruling over holy angels and unholy demons. In heaven, God spoke to all the angels. Those who listened and took it to heart remained angels. Those who did not listen or take it to heart became demons.           

When God speaks, our response is either angelic or demonic.

Is there anything God has been speaking to you that you aren’t taking to heart?

How’s Your Spiritual Diet?

Malachi 2:1-2: “And now, O priests, this command is for you. If you will not listen, if you will not take it to heart to give honor to my name, says the LORD of hosts, then I will send the curse upon you and I will curse your blessings. Indeed, I have already cursed them, because you do not lay it to heart.”

When each of our five children were little, my wife Grace was amazing to watch. For her entire life, she had studied health and nutrition. Once the kids showed up, she knew exactly what to feed them and what not to feed them. As I asked her to inform my ignorance, she explained that the children’s digestive system meant that their little body could not process all foods. Many would make them sick or even cause them to develop lifelong allergies if they were introduced into their diet too early.           

I had no idea and had I been the one feeding the kids, it would not have gone well. The old adage “you are what you eat” is apparently quite true. And what is true of your body is also true of your soul. In Matthew 4:4, Jesus said that we should feed our soul the word of God and that God’s “word” was soul “bread”. Practically, when I teach the Bible at church, I am to feed the souls of our church family with the same care that Grace feeds the bodies of our family at home.

In Malachi, God, through the prophet, keeps rebuking the Old Testament pastors (called priests) publicly. These are the leaders who are also supposed to be the feeders. But they are not listening to God and feeding the people healthy doctrine. God is passionate about seeing His children well fed so they can be healthy rather than sick. This is a bit like the conversation Jesus had with Peter when He told him “feed my sheep”.          

Like the priests, there are many people who God expects to feed the souls of others – pastors, ministry leaders, moms, dads, teachers, coaches, spouses, counselors, authors, friends, etc. To feed someone is a great honor, and great responsibility. This is why James 3:1 says, “…we who teach will be judged with greater strictness.”           

Who feeds your soul?

Whose soul do you feed?          

What are you eating? What are you feeding others?

In Titus 2:1, the Bible tells us to “teach what accords with sound doctrine”. That word for “sound” is sometimes translated “healthy”? Why? Because when rightly taught, the Word of God makes the soul of a person healthy so that they become increasingly healthy from the inside out.

Is there anything you are learning or consuming in the form of content (videos, books, blogs, social media, television, movies, podcasts, etc.) that is not healthy and is making your soul unhealthy?

Malachi #4 – Learn to Persevere

When tough times come into your relationships, are you the kind of person who is more likely to hang in there or hang it up? In every relationship, there are times when we want to give in and give up. This is especially true with family members, including our spouse. But, when we learn to persevere through hard times with God, family, and friends, the long-term blessings outweigh the short-term burdens.

Really Living Starts with Giving

Malachi 1:13b-14: “You bring what has been taken by violence or is lame or sick, and this you bring as your offering! Shall I accept that from your hand? says the Lord. Cursed be the cheat who has a male in his flock, and vows it, and yet sacrifices to the Lord what is blemished. For I am a great King, says the Lord of hosts, and my name will be feared among the nations.”

God is the most generous person there is. From the planet we walk on, to the food we eat, water we drink, air we breathe and grace we enjoy, everything is a gift from God.           

In response to His generosity, God had a plan to have us also be generous. In the Old Testament, there was a base tithe of 10 percent of one’s gross income. In addition, with various offerings, feasts and festivals, charity for the poor etc., the total amount God’s people were expected to give was at a minimum somewhere between 25-27 percent depending upon which Bible scholar you trust to run the numbers. Admittedly, in a society where much of the giving was done with such things as crops and livestock, getting precise percentages is more difficult than dealing with dollars.           

Before long, however, some people kept trying to find a way to cheat God by keeping a higher percentage of His wealth for themselves. This just goes to show that most people are generous, but they are only generous to themselves.           

Some people brought the most pathetic offering possible. God always wants our first fruits, meaning we give to Him first and we give Him our best. This includes the first and best hours of our day and dollars of our paycheck. But, people from Malachi’s day to our own try and give God their worst instead of their first. This included lame, diseased animals that were worthless even though God had given them an unblemished male in their flock to present to Him. Perhaps even worse, rather than giving to God of their own portfolio, they stole things and gave them to God hoping He would not notice the theft. These are the spiritual ancestors of Judas Iscariot who stole from God and kept the money so they could buy a rope with which to hang themselves.           

Thankfully, when God sent Jesus Christ, He did not send a lame, worthless sacrifice. No, Jesus is God’s first fruits – the first and best of all who have walked the earth. For those who belong to Jesus Christ, we learn four things about giving.           

One, giving is a blessing. Acts 20:35 says, “remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.’”          

Two, giving is a joy. 2 Corinthians 9:6-8 says, “Remember this: Whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows generously will also reap generously. Each man should give what he has decided in his heart to give, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that in all things at all times, having all that you need, you will abound in every good work.”           

Three, giving straightens out your heart. In Matthew 6:21, Jesus says, “For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.”

Lastly, giving is for all of life and not just your wallet. Generous people give their money, time, love, encouragement, blessing, words, deeds, and time to others. Giving people are more naturally forgiving people. Giving people make better Christians, spouses, parents, friends, co-workers, leaders, and siblings. The key to really living starts by giving.

Do you believe that God is pleased with your level of generosity towards both ministry and those in need?

Has Ministry Become a Misery?

Malachi 1:13: “But you say, ‘What a weariness this is,’ and you snort at it, says the Lord of hosts.”

God is constantly serving. Every minute of every day, He is holding the universe together, battling demonic plots, saving sinners, teaching people, forgiving sin, and answering prayers. To help Him love and serve people, God created a group of ministry leaders to help Him help people. They were called the priests.

The priests, however, got sick of their job. Some got bored with the routine of leading worship, doing counseling, teaching the Bible, visiting the sick, and lifting burdens. Others tried to turn what was supposed to be a divine calling into yet another dreary job. You know the drill – show up late, leave early, slack off, and do as little as you possibly can without getting fired. If possible, they would sleep on the job, go through the motions, and when the boss was not looking, feel free to increase their compensation but steal from the company.

Since God was their boss, He felt free to give them a performance review. Apparently, they did not know that God could hear their bellyaching about Him, the job, and the people He gave them to care for as they sat out back smoking cigarettes when they were supposed to be working. But, God hears all and knows all – including our eye-rolling, deep-sighing disdain for serving others.

To be sure, there is such a thing as a godly weariness in ministry. Jesus Himself was so tired that He took naps and slept through a raging storm on a boat at sea. Paul said that his energy was sometimes poured out like a glass that was completely empty.  In Malachi, God is not talking about the godly occasion of being weary in ministry but rather the ungodly occasion of being weary of ministry. This is what happens when a married couple lukewarm toward the Lord and one another go through the motions of caring without any real passion to serve God or one another. This happens when a person in vocational ministry secretly hates their job, has hardened their heart toward their people, and hurls insults at God in their mind.

Thankfully, Jesus Christ came down from the Kingdom as our humble servant. He did not grow weary of ministry, and pressed forward through impossible obstacles and oppositions. In love, He died that we might live, and lives that we might live with Him forever. He also sent the Holy Spirit so that we can live by His power and serve others like Jesus has served us. In this way, Jesus ministers both to us and through us.

How faithful are you in your ministry service to God?

You Either Worship Your Wealth as God or Worship God with Your Wealth

Malachi 1:11-12: “‘For from the rising of the sun to its setting my name will be great among the nations, and in every place, incense will be offered to my name, and a pure offering. For my name will be great among the nations,’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘But you profane it when you say that the Lord’s table is polluted, and its fruit, that is, its food may be despised.’”            

When I was a little kid, they took us city kids up into the woods for a day to learn about nature. Before we jumped on the bus for the return trip home, they gave each of us a small sprout that they said would turn into a giant pine tree if we planted and watered it.           

Excited to see if I could grow a tree, upon arriving home I found a shovel and dug a hole in the front yard where I buried the seedling. I kind of forgot to ask my parents’ permission, and before long they were surprised to see a small pine tree growing in our front yard. Eventually, that tree grew up to hold a birdhouse and provide shade on warm days.           

In 1 Peter 1:23, we are told that the “word of God” is also a “seed”. God’s intent was to plant it in the nation of Israel, have it grow up, and then send forth that seedling to be planted among the nations. His desire was to bring the good news of salvation through Jesus Christ to the world. For this to happen, God’s people in Israel would need to also have the seed of truth take root in their lives causing them to be generous to get God’s Word out to God’s world.          

God’s plan was that people would give the first fruits (or first and best) of their wealth. For the rancher, this meant giving livestock. For the farmer, this meant giving food. This wealth was supposed to be used for missions and reaching the nations.           

In Malachi, at the end of the Old Testament, things are not going well. The ranchers were bringing animals that were “blind” and “sick”. Can you imagine giving a puppy with that description to a child for Christmas? The dishonor to God was deep. In addition, the farmers were giving the rotten leftovers to God because they thought that’s all He deserved for being a rotten God.          

Rather than being generous, they were greedy. The bad offering in their hand merely reflected the bad attitude in their heart. So, God was honest that they needed to be grateful for what they had, share it with others, and trust Him to provide for their needs. Roughly 2,500 years later, the old adage holds true – you either worship your wealth as God or worship God with your wealth.

How has God been generous to you spiritually, financially, relationally, emotionally, physically, etc.?

The Trouble with the Temple

Malachi 1:10: “Oh that there were one among you who would shut the doors, that you might not kindle fire on my altar in vain! I have no pleasure in you, says the Lord of hosts, and I will not accept an offering from your hand.”

In the spiritual universe of the Old Testament, the gravitational center around which everyone and everything orbited was the Temple. At the Temple, people met with God, heaven touched earth, sin was forgiven, holidays were celebrated, and life was given meaning. The Temple was God’s way of providing a home for His people to find hope, help, and healing. 

Without the Temple, virtually nothing mandated by God in the Old Testament was possible. Without the Temple, there was no priesthood, no sacrificial system to deal with human sin, and nowhere that served as the center for world mission to get the message of God out to the nations.           

The Temple was destroyed and, for a season, there was no Temple. Eventually, at great cost, labor, and risk, the Temple was rebuilt. The entire point of the Temple was for the Kingdom of God to rule over His people, preparing them for eternity and providing a prototype for how His people were supposed to live holy lives different than the nations surrounding them. God did not need a Temple or worship. God’s people needed the Temple so that they could worship.

In what would have been a shocking statement, God Himself said that He wanted to have His Temple shut down. Why? Because both the priests, who were leaders, and the people, who were followers, were not worshipping in the way that God wanted. The big idea is that true worship is not what works for us but rather what works for God. Godly worship is about service, sacrifice, and surrender. Their ungodly worship was about selfishness, stealing, and sinning. It seems that this form of “church” was very popular. The ministry leaders got high approval ratings from the people and the people had a “church” that made them feel very comfortable as it worked for them. But, God was unhappy with the priests and the people. In this discount religious business it seems that everyone forgets that they, and all they have and do, belongs to Him.           

Thankfully, Jesus Christ came to the earth. His body was the Temple where God’s presence was to be found on the earth and the connection between heaven and earth. Today, we no longer have a Temple since it was destroyed in 70 A.D. We do not go to the Temple, but rather we go to Jesus Christ who has made our bodies and churches the place where His Spirit dwells and God can be worshipped. This is what Paul means saying in 2 Corinthians 6:19-20, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

What do you consider “good worship” or a “good church”? One that works for you or one that works for God? One that gives you what you want or one that gives you what God wants?

The False Trinity of Lame, Sick, and Evil

Malachi 1:7-9: “By offering polluted food upon my altar. But you say ‘How have we polluted you?’ ‘By saying that the Lord’s table may be despised. When you offer blind animals in sacrifice, is that not evil? And when you offer those that are lame or sick, is that not evil? Present that to your governor; will he accept you or show you favor?’ says the Lord of hosts. ‘And now entreat the favor of God, that he may be gracious to us. With such a gift from your hand, will he show favor to any of you?’ says the Lord of hosts.”

God is so holy that “holiness” is the most frequently mentioned attribute of God in the entire Bible. This means that God is good, pure, right, true, and light without any darkness. God made humanity holy, but we soon rebelled against God and became sinfully unholy. This broke our relationship with God.

In love, however, God devised a plan to deal with our sin and restore our relationship. At great labor and expense, the Temple was built as the place where God’s presence would dwell so that people could meet with Him. Priests were commissioned into ministry to serve the people and help them give their sins and burdens to God for forgiveness and healing. This was God’s loving way of helping us.

Since the consequence of sinful unholiness was death, a substitute was chosen to spare people from having to suffer for their own sin. Unblemished animals representing purity and perfection were supposed to be brought by the sinner to the Temple and sacrificed by the priest. The sin of the worshipper was imputed or reckoned to the animal who then died in the place for the sinner.

As lazy worshippers, God’s people stopped going through the hard work of transporting their animal to the Temple which might include regular and lengthy walks over many days. Sensing a business opportunity, animals were put up for sale at the Temple at a premium price. Those selling the animals made a hefty profit off of lazy worshippers. Since the priests had to inspect and approve of any sacrifice, before long they were given a cut of the profits from the booming business. Some priests would only accept animals bought from the high-priced vendors who then gave the priest a cut of the revenue. Poorer people with acceptable sacrifices were sometimes turned away and told they had to go buy another animal. Burdened with the animal they brought and needing money to buy a new one, the poor worshippers would sell their animal at a discount, buy another animal at inflated prices, only to see their animal then sold as an acceptable sacrifice at a massive price increase. This is an evil but highly profitable business plan where the priests and the animal sellers made huge profits in the name of worshipping God.

As if that were not bad enough, eventually the priests also allowed some people to bring sacrifices that were “blind”, “lame”, and “sick”. The priests were paid to accept what God rejected and call it holy. Incensed with the corruption, God reminded them that even though “church” might be working for the people, it was not working for Him. Furthermore, God’s reminded His people that they did not try the same shell game with their taxes as they had more regard for them.

Thankfully, the Lord Jesus came as both our High Priest and sacrifice. Perfect and sinless, we are forgiven of sin and spared death by the “precious blood of Christ…a lamb without blemish or spot”. (1 Peter 1:19). Amazingly, in the next chapter we read how Jesus also sends the Holy Spirit to make each of His followers a priest as we together serve others as “a spiritual house, to be a holy priesthood, to offer spiritual sacrifices acceptable to God through Jesus Christ…a chosen race, a royal priesthood…” (1 Peter 2:5,9).

Is there any area of your life where you are cheating God or trying to get God on your own terms?

Malachi #3 – Learn to Listen

Do you consider yourself a good listener? One key to every healthy relationship is being a good listener. Sadly, sometimes believers don’t like what God is saying, so they choose to listen to a bad teacher who tells them what they want to hear rather than what God has said. As you grow to heed God’s Word and hear God’s voice you will be able to walk in the destiny that God has for you and your family.

Do You Really Honor God?

Malachi 1:6: “‘A son honors his father, and a servant his master. If then I am a father, where is my honor? And if I am a master, where is my fear?’ says the Lord of hosts to you, O priests, who despise my name. But you say, ‘How have we despised your name?’”

God had a great plan. To love and lead His people, he created something called the priesthood. The priest was supposed to function as a bit of a mediator in the relationship between God and His people. The priest was supposed to bring the Word of God to the people through Bible teaching and bring the burdens of the people to God through prayer.           

The priests were descendants of the Old Testament leader Aaron. God’s intent was that the leadership of His people would be passed on through families from one generation to another. This would ensure relational ministry so that people were loved and cared for generation after generation.          

The priesthood was centered in the city of Jerusalem at the Temple. This was the most sacred place on earth – the place where heaven and earth connected and the location for people to meet with God, who was present in the Holy of Holies. The first Temple was destroyed and, after a long season, was finally rebuilt at great work and expense to God’s people. The entire point of the Temple was to have a place where the Kingdom of God came down to the earth and theocratic rule of God over His people occurred.           

The plan was wonderful, but the priests were awful. The priests stopped living Kingdom down and instead started doing ministry that the people wanted but God hated. They stopped teaching God’s truth and leading the people to obey God. Instead, they created a discount form of religion where people could disobey God morally, rob God financially, and go through the motions spiritually without any correction from the priests. In exchange, the priests were lazy at their jobs, cared little about God, and turned a calling from God into yet another job that they hated.          

The Bible has three major themes: sin, suffering, and stewardship. Much of the book of Malachi is about stewardship – how God wants us to invest our life and money for His Kingdom. Their sin was in regards to their stewardship. Since everything rises and falls with leadership, God begins by dealing with the pathetic priests. In God’s rebuke, we learn three things that are crucial to all of life.           

One. Honor is supposed to go up to God so that blessing can flow down from God. Throughout Malachi, the people repeatedly complain that blessing is not coming down from God. God’s response is that honor is not going up to Him. In the same way that a good parent does not reward bad behavior, God will not fund sin.          

Two. In ministry, God is to be the focus and people the beneficiary. The problem in Malachi’s day, and in our own, is that people became the focus of ministry. Ministry leaders can slip into the error of thinking that their primary job is to do what people want and quickly forget that their primary job is to do what God wants.           

Three. The first duty of godly leaders is to seek the will of God for His ministry and His people. Ministry is to be done Kingdom down and not people up. When torn between the desires of the people who paid them and the desires of the God who called them, they choose to obey the people and disobey the Lord. Sadly, it just goes to show that for two and a half millennia, if you want to disobey God and appear spiritual, you can find someone to teach what you want to hear and call you godly even if you are not.        

Thankfully, Jesus Christ came as our great High Priest as the New Testament book of Hebrews continually explains. Unlike the failed priests, we now have Jesus. He’s our perfect High Priest who, as both God and man, mediates between God and men reconciling our relationship, forgiving our sins, and lifting our burdens without fail. Amazingly, He also places the Holy Spirit in us so that our bodies and lives become little temples through which God’s presence goes forth into the world to serve others as Jesus has served us. This is what 1 Corinthians 3:16 means saying, “…you are God’s temple…God’s Spirit dwells in you…God’s temple is holy, and you are that temple.”       

Is there any area of your life where you are currently not honoring God (e.g. financial, sexual, vocational, marital, parental, etc.)?

Six Options for Who Chooses Our Salvation

My wife Grace and I have been faithfully married for 26 years. We first met at the age of 17 in high school. Within days (or at most weeks), I knew that I had met my wife. In my heart, I had chosen her to be my bride. Grace, however, had not yet come to that same conclusion. For us to have a relationship, she would have to respond to my choice by choosing me back.

God speaks of His relationship with His people like a groom and bride. I take this to mean that God chooses us for covenant love, and we respond to His love by loving Him back. In any healthy relationship, both parties need to choose to love one another. The question is, who chooses to love first? This leads us to the question of predestination that appears early on in our study of the last book of the Bible. Malachi 1:2b-4 opens by saying, “‘Is not Esau Jacob’s brother?’ declares the Lord. ‘Yet I have loved Jacob but Esau I have hated. I have laid waste his hill country and left his heritage to jackals of the desert.’ If Edom says, ‘We are shattered but we will rebuild the ruins,’ the Lord of hosts says, ‘They may build, but I will tear down, and they will be called ‘the wicked country,’ and ‘the people with whom the Lord is angry forever’.’”

Paul picks up this theme and even quotes Malachi saying in Romans 9:10-14, “…when Rebekah had conceived children by one man, our forefather Isaac, though they were not yet born and had done nothing either good or bad — in order that God’s purpose of election might continue, not because of works but because of him who calls — she was told, ‘The older will serve the younger’. As it is written, ‘Jacob I loved, but Esau I hated’. What shall we say then? Is there injustice on God’s part? By no means!”

Nearly every Christian Bible study ends up beating a stable of dead horses as soon as someone asks, “Do we choose God, or does God choose us?” At this moment, it is always good to pop some popcorn and turn on some carnival music as the fun is sure to commence.

For the sake of simplicity, I want to share the six options for who chooses our salvation:

No one is saved and everyone is damned. I cannot remember anyone actually ever teaching this which is odd. The truth is, hell makes perfect sense. Fallen angels cannot be saved and only go to hell. If fallen people joined them it seems like a fair deal. 
God chooses everyone. This is called Universalism and a heresy so if you believe it, you are a heretic and need to pick another option.
We are good people who can freely choose God. This is called Pelagianism and also a heresy so, once again, if you believe this, you are a heretic and need to pick another option.
We are sinful people but God grants everyone a free will choice. This is called Arminianism or Wesleyanism where God gives everyone at some point “prevenient grace” which opens their fallen will to make a free will choice to follow God or not (kind of like Adam and Eve existed before the Fall). This is not a heresy so, if you believe this, congrats to you on not being a heretic.
God chooses some sinners for heaven and some sinners for hell. This is also called Calvinism, or double predestination. This, too, is not a heresy but can appear to be a very capricious version of the kids game “Duck, Duck, Goose” renamed “Elect, Elect, Damned”.
Everyone chooses hell through sin and God chooses to save some people through His loving grace. This is called Lutheranism, or single predestination, where the non-Christian gets what they want, and the Christian gets what God wants for them. If you believe this you are not a heretic and agree with me, Jesus, the Bible, the Holy Spirit, and all that is right and good. You should buy us both a cupcake to celebrate.
All kidding aside, the battle between believers is often regarding open-handed issues. Our faith has closed-handed issues which all faithful Christians must agree upon. Our faith also has open-handed issues which Christians can disagree about without dividing over. This is one of those issues with at least three options that I conclude with above.

Since we are in Malachi, I will close with an illustration. Throughout the book God tells His people that He is their “Father” (1:6, 2:10). That makes believers the children of God. The Bible actually speaks of salvation as being adopted by God the Father. In every adoption, it is not legally possible for the child to fill out the paperwork and adopt the parent. Instead, the parent must decide to adopt the child and the child is then given a voice as to whether or not they want to be adopted into this family. In Christianity, I do not see how we adopt God as our Father. Instead, I see the Father choosing to adopt us, sending the Spirit to give us a new nature and will, and from that new heart, we love and choose the Father who has chosen us in love.

How amazing is it that the God of the universe chose to love you and adopt you as His beloved child forever?