\u201cLittle Foxes\u201d<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nMark early; Grace late. Mark big potato chips; Grace smaller crumbs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mark introvert; Grace extrovert. Mark likes football; Grace really dislikes football.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mark organized; Grace more random. Mark pessimist; Grace optimist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mark impatient; Grace patient. Mark driving windows down; Grace does not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mark not nervous public speaking; Grace is. Mark writing sex book fun; Grace…not so much.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 First days \u2013 best behavior, dressed up, breath mint, drive nice, chew food, 0 farts<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 Over time \u2013 irritated \u2013 not God\u2019s laws but our rules<\/p>\n\n\n\n
US: Dishwasher? Guy TV? Add to dinner? Toilet seat up\/down? ??YOU??<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nFlirting<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nSong of Songs 2:8-13 [She] Listen! My beloved! Look! Here he comes, leaping across the mountains, bounding over the hills. My beloved is like a gazelle or a young stag. Look! There he stands behind our wall, gazing through the windows, peering through the lattice. My beloved spoke and said to me, [He] \u201cArise, my darling, my beautiful one, come with me. See! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone. Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land. The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance. Arise, come, my darling; my beautiful one, come with me.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Anticipation = planning @ parents house, peering out window, excited for their date<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Ministry of Presence \u2013 being together Jesus & Holy Spirit (\u201cLiving Alone Apart\u201d)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Nicknames = Cursing\/Blessing; Reap\/Sow<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- She says\u201d \u201cyoung stag\/stud\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- He says, \u201cmy darling, my beautiful one\u201d 2:14 \u201cdove\u201d \u2013 peace, faithful mate lifetime, HS<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
SEASONS: \u201cSPRING\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
-Seasons of Marriage \u2013 dating, engaged, new married, kids, work, health, move, empty nest<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n-Seasons in Marriage\u2013 Winter (cold); Spring (warm up); Summer (hot); Fall (cooling down)<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nFrom Flirting (spring) to Fighting (winter)<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nSong of Songs 2:14-15 [He] My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Catch for us the foxes, the little foxes that ruin the vineyards, our vineyards that are in bloom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- -She is Verbal, He is Visual<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Compliments \u2013 \u201cyour voice is sweet\u201d, \u201cyour face is lovely\u201d (deposits vs withdrawals)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
= OUR EARLY MARRIAGE FAILS<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n= they go from flirt to flight quickly<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nCOMMON \u201cFOXES\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Differences<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
=spender\/saver; night owl\/early bird, introvert\/extrovert, neatnik\/messy, toilet seat up\/down<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Priorities \u2013 (law of jealousy)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Boundaries (ex, family, friends, work, technology)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Disorganization (schedule, budget, household, bedtime)<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Past pain, or shame<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Technology<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
Little Foxes ?? When ?? 1).Day off 2). Holiday 3). Vacation 4). Covid = more time together<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n3 Types of Homes<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n\n- Random Homes<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Closed Homes<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Open Homes<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n
=Grace and I. Early marriage. Ministry. Kids<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nFight For Your Marriage, Not With Your Spouse<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nSong of Songs 2:16-3:4 [She] My beloved is mine and I am his; he browses among the lilies. Until the day breaks and the shadows flee, turn, my beloved, and be like a gazelle or like a young stag on the rugged hills. All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves. So I looked for him but did not find him. The watchmen found me as they made their rounds in the city. \u201cHave you seen the one my heart loves?\u201d Scarcely had I passed them when I found the one my heart loves. I held him and would not let him go till I had brought him to my mother\u2019s house, to the room of the one who conceived me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 ??Unknown fox in vineyard??<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 Abbi\u2019s guilty this time<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 Solomon \u201cstonewalls\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u00b7 Abbi makes first move (repenting\/owning)<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Genesis 2:24 \u201ccleave\u201d, \u201cbe joined\u201d, \u201cbecome united\u201d, \u201cstick with\u201d, \u201chold fast\u201d, or \u201ccling to\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- SOS 2:16 \u201cMy beloved is mine and I am his…\u201d = mutual belonging<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
= Strong vs Independent<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nThe Four Horsemen of Marriage Apocalypse<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n1. Criticism \u2013 The person does not have a problem, they are the problem<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. Contempt – Sneering, mocking, name calling, eye rolling, and volume raising.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Defensiveness \u2013 Make excuses and blame shift, double down, change the subject.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Stonewalling – Tune out, practice the silent treatment, leave the room, drive away. Most often it\u2019s husband as in Song of Songs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- John Gottman. Predicts divorce 91% accuracy<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- \u201cHarsh Startup\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
2 ways to talk about the Little Fox 1). Heaven Down 2). Hell Up<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n30 Years<\/p>\n\n\n\n
#1. Both sinners so be a Christian & forgive\/repent<\/p>\n\n\n\n
#2. Both annoying<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Progress not perfection<\/li>\n\n\n\n
- You can be alone or annoyed (one day you might be alone & wish you were annoyed)<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>","protected":false,"gt_translate_keys":[{"key":"rendered","format":"html"}]},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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