4 Tips to Lead Your Family Through the Holidays

  • My failure on our first Christmas after college
#1. Perspective
Ecclesiastes 3:1 For everything there is a season and a time for every matter under heaven…
-Same God created the physical & spiritual world
-Wisdom works within the seasons
-What Season of Life Are You In? What Season of Life are Others In?
Baby                Child                Young Adult    Adult Worker   Married            Parent Empty nester Caretaker             Grandparent    Retiree            Widow             Dying
  • Major life change (Divorce, Widow, Death of parent or child, Relocation, Job change, Career change, Bankruptcy, Illness self or close family, Marriage)
2 Important Life Lessons
  1. Differentiation (become adult)
  2. New family (marriage)
#2. Priorities
Proverbs 1:7 [NIV] The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge, but fools despise wisdom and instruction.
Proverbs 3:9 [NKJV] Honor the Lord with your possessions, And with the firstfruits of all your increase…
  1. Healthy Christian
  2. Healthy Spouse
  3. Healthy Children & Grandchildren
  4. Healthy Worker
  5. Healthy Church Member
  6. Someone or something picks your priorities (family, crisis, push people, pain?)
  7. A value is what you care about a priority is what you do.
  8. You have to say “no” so you can say “yes”.
  9. Know the difference between self-care and being selfish.
  10. Everyone & everything is important, just not equally important
  • Jealousy = in my place
#3. Plan
Proverbs 12:20 Deceit is in the heart of those who devise evil, but those who plan peace have joy.
Proverbs 21:5 The plans of the diligent lead surely to plenty, but those of everyone who is hasty, surely to poverty
Proverbs 16:3Commit your work to the Lord, and your plans will be established.
  • Everyone prays then speaks
  • View, Voice, Vote
  • Share the plan with everyone (text, on the fridge, family meeting, etc.)
#4. Pivot
Proverbs 16:9The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps.
Proverbs 19:21Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand.

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