More Holiness. Less Naughtiness.

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More Holiness. Less Naughtiness. 1 Thessalonians 4:1-12

Real Romance: Sex in the Song of Songs Giveaway:


Punk rock outdoor Bible study, pivot to Q&A, XN kids didn’t understand all ? 

–       Early church moved from Jewish OT to Gentile pagan = lots of new ? 

–       Roman Empire – Greek Language/Culture 

–       Older men/younger boys, trans, every vice, pagan temples/brothels (1000+ Corinth) 

2023 Gallup Poll of Morally Acceptable Behavior

72% fornication, 64% same sex relationship, 52% abortion, 43% teen sex, 39% pornography, 23% polygamy, 9% marital affair

=PAUL – letter Q&A 

How to Stop a Wildfire

1 Thessalonians 4:1–8 4 Finally, then, brothers, we ask and urge you in the Lord Jesus, that as you received from us how you ought to walk and to please God, just as you are doing, that you do so more and more. 2 For you know what instructions we gave you through the Lord Jesus. 3 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; 4 that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, 5 not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God; 6 that no one transgress and wrong his brother in this matter, because the Lord is an avenger in all these things, as we told you beforehand and solemnly warned you. 7 For God has not called us for impurity, but in holiness. 8 Therefore whoever disregards this, disregards not man but God, who gives his Holy Spirit to you.

  1. Authority: Carl Trueman Strange New World 

External (facts) vs Internal (feelings) 

  1. Identity: Unchangeable vs Changeable: NEW YOU “gives HS to you”=“sanctification”
  2. Sexuality: Illegal (govt) vs Immoral (God) =“sexual immorality” 

Passion – fire.                 Marriage – fire ring 

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2022 Idaho Moose Fire – 130,235 acres, cost $100 million, killed 5 firefighters – camper left fire 

Scripture = heterosexual marriage = ring. Everything else a sin outside ring. 

:4-5 “know how to control…body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God” 

????Driven by A). Pleasure or B). Purpose????

6 Purposes for Sex in Heterosexual Marriage – Bible – not anti-sex, but pro-marriage 

1.    Pleasure (Song of Songs) 

2.    Children (Genesis 1:28) 

3.    Oneness (Genesis 2:24)

4.    Knowledge (Genesis 4:1) 

5.    Protection (1 Corinthians 7:2-5) 

6.    Comfort (2 Samuel 12:24) 

-Brain Science – Pleasure Pathways (PLEASURE OR PURPOSE) 

-Unconscious habit. Increased frequency. Increased intensity. = addiction cycle 

“one flesh” – intimacy triggers brain pleasure center (dopamine, oxytocin, vasopressin)

3 Views of Sex 

  1. Sex as God – confusion & addiction 
  2. Sex as Gross – religion & abuse 
  3. Sex as Gift – enjoy & steward (purity single, passion married) 

·         Everyone struggles w/something sexual except 1. Dead 2. Liars 

·         Sin? Shorten the gap 

·         Avoid old paths               Build new paths 

? everyone Bible commands/forbids = virtually eliminate sexual assault/trauma, sex trafficking, sex addiction, divorce, abortion, poverty, STD’s, much mental health, culture wars 

  • “Holiness” – people, places, things SACRED 

Men & Marriage George Gilder: Civilization is Built by Men w/Families to Feed 

Young men “barbarians”. Options 1. Drag Queens 2. Drug Cartels 3. Patriarch 

6 Ways to Live on Purpose

1 Thessalonians 4:9-12 Now concerning brotherly love you have no need for anyone to write to you, for you yourselves have been taught by God to love one another, 10 for that indeed is what you are doing to all the brothers throughout Macedonia. But we urge you, brothers, to do this more and more, 11 and to aspire to live quietly, and to mind your own affairs, and to work with your hands, as we instructed you, 12 so that you may walk properly before outsiders and be dependent on no one.

  1. RELATIONALLY: XN’s “love one another” vs world hate 
  2. MENTALLY: “live quietly” vs world vs world conflict 
  3. EMOTIONALLY: “mind your own affairs” vs world gossip/busybodying 
  4. PHYSICALLY: “work with your hands” vs world burden 
  5. SPIRITUALLY:“walk properly before outsiders” vs world seeking to convert XN’s 
  6. FINANCIALLY: “be dependent on no one” vs world dependance 

-Credit Card debt = $1 trillion. Avg $22k (auto, credit card) 

– Nat’l debt – $100k per man/woman/child 



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