Why Your Marriage Needs Fun

Don't just survive your marriage; discover how to thrive with fun! In the fourth and final Real Romance Conference sermon, learn how to infuse your relationship with laughter, adventure, and unforgettable moments.



Real Romance Pro Tip #4: Fun

  1. If you want to stay together, you have to play together! 
  2. Sin commission & omission. Too many XN’s omit to have fun, make memories

=Yrs ago well-known XN author marriage books. Finally met! Not spend $ (if my daughter) 

Ecclesiastes 9:7-10 (NIV) Go, eat your food with gladness, and drink your wine with a joyful heart, for God has already approved what you do. Always be clothed in white, and always anoint your head with oil. Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun—all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with all your might, for in the realm of the dead, where you are going, there is neither working nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom.

1. Don’t stop dating once you are married  

“eat your food…and drink your wine”

  1. Date nights/days 
  2. Staycations
  3. Overnights
  4. Vacations
  5. Holidays 
  6. Big trips 

2. Have fun 

“gladness” “joyful heart” “enjoy”

  1. Get fun on the calendar & in the budget 
  2. When fun shows up drop everything 

=Anxious vs non anxious home = playfulness 

3.See each other through Jesus eyes  

“wear white”


Sin – defiled dozen words OT NT 

= Shame (fig leaf) 

I Jn 1:9 “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” 


1.What you’ve done

2.What’s been done to you

3. What Jesus does for you 

Rev. 19:7-8 Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory! For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready. Fine linen, bright and clean, was given her to wear.”

=Jesus sees His spouse as forgiven & clean. Do the same! 

4. Choose an anointed marriage 

“anoint your head with oil”

  • HS anointing flows down 
  • Live under His Word & that’s where the Spirit flows 

5. Make marriage memories your urgent priorities

“meaningless days”

  • 38X “hebel” – vapor 

Pic 1 – Our Wedding Photo

Pic 2 – Recent Family Photo

6. Work to live, don’t live to work

“your toilsome labor under the sun”, “Whatever your hand finds to do, to it with all your might”

·        Plan for play 

·        Weekly calendar & budget meeting 

=You can spend your time and money one date nights or divorce attorneys 

7.Live life Kingdom Down!

“where you are going”

·        Kingdom of God 

·        Jesus first miracle @ a wedding

·        Wedding supper Lamb (Rev. 19) 

·        Throw parties & make memories to practice for the Kingdom!

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Mark Driscoll

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