Dominion: Real Men 201
You Can’t Cleave Unless You Leave
Upcoming series (Bible & Bowen)
Setting you men up for a win
How we got holidays & vacations wrong
–Family – emotional system tied by time together sharing feelings, esp anxiety
–Family System –
3 levels
- Personal
- Relational
- System
–Immediate vs Extended Family
Triangles
–Reverting
–Nodal Events – groundshaking for generations (someone enters or leaves family)
1.Fight 2. Flight 3. Freeze 4. Caregive
“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (KJV)
- Obey Mother/Father
- Honor Mother/Father
- Leave Mother/Father
- Hate Mother/Father
Multi Generational Complete Enmeshment Graphic
Newly Married Mental Strain Graphic
Leave and Cleave Options Graphic
Family vs Extended Family Graphic
Discussion Questions
- What was your big personal takeaway from the talk?
- What changes would you need to make to have a healthy immediate family?
- What actions and conversations would make the holidays better this year?
- How can we pray for you?
