You Can’t Cleave Unless You Leave

How should you deal with toxic family? Join us for a look at family systems just in time for the holidays so that you can go from drama-filled to Spirit-filled

Dominion: Real Men 201

You Can’t Cleave Unless You Leave 

Upcoming series (Bible & Bowen)

Setting you men up for a win

How we got holidays & vacations wrong

Family – emotional system tied by time together sharing feelings, esp anxiety

Family System 

3 levels

  1. Personal
  2. Relational
  3. System

Immediate vs Extended Family



Nodal Events – groundshaking for generations (someone enters or leaves family)

1.Fight             2. Flight                       3. Freeze                     4. Caregive

“Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.” Genesis 2:24 (KJV)

  1. Obey Mother/Father
  2. Honor Mother/Father          
  3. Leave Mother/Father
  4. Hate Mother/Father

Multi Generational Complete Enmeshment Graphic

Newly Married Mental Strain Graphic

Leave and Cleave Options Graphic

Family vs Extended Family Graphic

Discussion Questions

  1. What was your big personal takeaway from the talk?
  2. What changes would you need to make to have a healthy immediate family?
  3. What actions and conversations would make the holidays better this year?
  4. How can we pray for you?
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Mark Driscoll

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