Emotional Health

John #19 – The Truth Will Set You Free: John 8:31-59

Freedom! Perhaps no word evokes more positive emotion in the typical person than the word “freedom”. But, are we truly free? Free from what? Free to what? In a tense and terse public debate with moral and spiritual people, Jesus offended them by saying they were slaves to sin internally even though they were free externally. How about you? Are you truly living in the mental, spiritual, and emotional freedom that God has for you? Learn how to be set free from sin, religion, the demonic, death, and fear by believing His Truth!

Are You a Complaining Christian?

“About the middle of the feast Jesus went up into the temple and began teaching. The Jews therefore marveled, saying, “How is it that this man has learning, when he has never studied?” So Jesus answered them, “My teaching is not mine, but his who sent me. If anyone’s will is to do God’s will, he will know whether the teaching is from God or whether I am speaking on my own authority. The one who speaks on his own authority seeks his own glory; but the one who seeks the glory of him who sent him is true, and in him there is no falsehood.” – John 7:14-18

According to Jesus, there are basically two kinds of teachers. Paul echoes this saying in 1 Corinthians 8:1, saying “knowledge” puffs up, but love builds up”.

Knowledge teachers puff themselves and their hearers up with pride. They echo the scholars so that you know how smart they are. Their authority is from men as they went to the right schools, took the right classes, read the right books, and got the right degrees. The result of knowledge teachers is that they are theological, but not relational. Knowledge teachers produce critics who spend their days tearing others down.

Love teachers build themselves and their hearers up with love. Love teachers echo the Spirit. Love teachers speak with authority that is from God. This is precisely how Jesus taught according to Matthew 7:28-29, “the crowds were astonished at his teaching, for he was teaching them as one who had authority, and not as their scribes.” Love teachers produce Christians who spend their days building others up.

There is nothing wrong with studying or getting a degree. But, there is something wrong with become proud and theological instead of loving and relational. When instructing others in the Word, it is important to do so out of love and humility, not pride in order to give all glory to God, not self.

How about you? Do you listen mainly to knowledge or love teachers? Are you more prone to tear others down or build them up?

Jesus Cares About Your Physical and Spiritual Needs

You are a person in two parts. You have a visible material aspect to your being that is your body. You have an invisible spiritual aspect to your being that is your soul.

Jesus Christ identifies with all of you. Jesus took upon Himself a physical body and entered in to history to save and serve all of you. Furthermore, Jesus has a resurrection prepared for you so that you can be fully healed and whole in body and spirit forever.

While ministering on the earth, Jesus revealed the Kingdom of God. In John 6, we see one of the most popular Bible stories of all time. It, along with the resurrection, are the only miracles of Jesus recorded in all four gospels (Matthew, Mark, Luke, John). There, we see a crowd of five thousand men, plus women and children, gathering to hear Jesus preach and see Jesus heal. As the crowd grew hungry, a little boy stepped forward to offer his lunch in an effort to help. Jesus then multiplied the lunch to feed everyone until they were full in what was the world’s most unique all-you-can-eat buffet.

In this miracle, we learn that Jesus cares about both your physical and spiritual needs. As the “Bread of Life” Jesus forgives sin and places the Holy Spirit in your soul so that you have spiritual life. Jesus also cares about your physical needs and teaches you to ask in prayer for your “daily bread”.

Sometimes, we can feel awkward asking God to meet physical needs for such things as food, a job, or housing. But, God loves all of you and—as the example with the little boys’ lunch shows—He can help and cares about all of you.

What practical needs has God met for you? Is there any physical need you should be asking God to meet?

Are You Doing Demonic Bible Studies?

In a very strange encounter, a bunch of religious leaders showed up to argue with Jesus Christ. Why? Because they felt He was not biblical.

Turning the tables to judge those who were judging him, in John 5:39-42 Jesus says, “You search the Scriptures because you think that in them you have eternal life; and it is they that bear witness about me, yet you refuse to come to me that you may have life. I do not receive glory from people. But I know that you do not have the love of God within you.”

Where did they go wrong? They studied the Scriptures but did not submit to the Spirit. In this way, they were having demonic Bible studies. Satan knows the Scripture well enough to quote it and twist it. Whenever Jesus encountered demons, they knew exactly who He was. But, neither Satan nor demons submit to the Holy Spirit. As a result, they do not hate sin nor love Jesus.

Rather than merely judging the religious leaders, we should judge ourselves so we can avoid their fate. They wrongly thought that the more they knew, the closer to God they were. But, their knowledge puffed them up with pride so that they were self-righteous, judgmental, and unloving. They even felt that they should have authority over Jesus to correct His errors.

If we are honest, we must admit that we are capable of the same sins. The answer is to continually invite the same Holy Spirit who inspired the writing of Scripture to help us learn how to humbly love Jesus and become more and more like Him. Otherwise, we can end up quoting the Bible in our fight against God oblivious to our error.

Is there any issue in the Bible that you have become proud about, are wrongly judgmental of others for, or need to become humbler about?

How can a husband help his wife tear down walls that she has put up because of past hurts?

We tend to build up walls because of past hurts, barring those who want to grow closer to us in relationship from doing so. In the context of marriage- how can a husband help his wife tear down those walls? 

Watch as Grace and I share our own experience and how you can do the same.

And if you have a question you’d like answered, email it to [email protected] today!

John #13 – Jesus Walks on Water: John 6:16-22

Life is filled with storms – financial, physical, emotional, spiritual, relational etc. In a storm, you become exhausted and overwhelmed. In just such a storm, Jesus walked on water to bring His peace and presence to His people. In response, Peter took a step of faith and also walked on water until fear began to sink him. Learn to find Jesus in your storm and walk by faith rather than sink into fear.

Sick People Need Jesus

Once more he visited Cana in Galilee, where he had turned the water into wine. And there was a certain royal official whose son lay sick at Capernaum. When this man heard that Jesus had arrived in Galilee from Judea, he went to him and begged him to come and heal his son, who was close to death. “Unless you people see signs and wonders,” Jesus told him, “you will never believe.” The royal official said, “Sir, come down before my child dies.” (John 4:46–49)

Are you battling an illness? Do you know someone who is?

The Bible has a lot to say about illness, as well as numerous reports of divine healing. Jesus encountered one man who knew that Jesus could save his dying son, so he jumped on a horse, riding as fast as he could, hoping for a miracle. Frantic, the father begged Jesus to heal his son.

Perhaps the only thing worse than slowly and painfully dying is watching death come for your child (or grandchild). These tragedies should never happen, and they scream at us that something has gone terribly wrong in the world. In response, people ask, “Why?”

In the most basic categories, the Bible says that there is suffering and death for three reasons:

Fall: When our first parents sinned, the death process began. Romans 5:12 says, “Therefore, just as sin entered the world through one man, and death through sin, and in this way death came to all people, because all sinned.”

Personal sin: Sometimes sickness and death come to people because of their ongoing defiance against God. First Corinthians 11:30 speaks of such people saying, “That is why many among you are weak and sick, and a number of you have fallen asleep.”

Demonic attack: Satan and demons are devoted to death. Sometimes, people suffer because of demonic attack. At least seven times in the Gospels, we are told that Jesus healed people through demonic deliverance. Matthew 8:16 says, “When evening came, many who were demon-possessed were brought to him, and he drove out the spirits with a word and healed all the sick.”
To kill death, our God, in the form of Jesus Christ, had to die. To bring life, our God Jesus Christ defeated death by walking away from His grave. When Jesus returns, the curse will be lifted, the dead will be raised, and His Kingdom will come. In the Kingdom, no one will be sick, and there will be no cemeteries or funerals. This is the great hope of the believer. Death does not get the final word. Jesus does!

How can you use your suffering to more greatly appreciate Jesus’ suffering for you?

Jesus Lifts Shame

Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.” (John 4:39)

I will never forget one person I met with as a young pastor. This person was raised in an abusive home and had worn that abuse like a lead jacket ever since. It weighed the person down and wore him out. For the first few counseling sessions, he never made eye contact with me.

Shame.

We all carry it because of sin we have committed and sins that have been committed against us.

Early in the Bible, before sin entered the world, we are told that people had “no shame.” But, as soon as sin entered the world, our first parents hid from God and each other because of shame.

How about you: What shame do you wear? What burdens do you bear?

Jesus sat down with a woman who was dominated by shame. Her race was the shameful Samaritans. Her religion was a shameful cult that practiced child sacrifice. Her relational life included five husbands and a boyfriend whom she was shacking up with. On top of it all, it is very likely that she was an abuse victim, which may have started this avalanche of pain in her life.

Jesus lifted her shame, and she became a new woman in an instant. When it comes to defining our identity, there are three options.

One: you are defined by what has been done to you.

Two: you are defined by what has been done by you.

Three: you are defined by what Jesus has done for you!

Jesus lifted this woman’s shame from her and onto Himself. He carried her shame to the cross where He took her place to remove her shame. Hebrews 12:2 invites you to start “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.”

Too many Christians know that their sin is forgiven but still carry their shame. Like Lazarus who received new life but still walked around in his grave clothes, they need to have the shame they wear taken off and replaced with the righteousness of Jesus Christ!

How about you: what shame do you carry? Will you today in prayer hand that shame to Jesus and get your burden lifted as this woman did?

The First Rule of Relationships

He told her, “Go, call your husband and come back.” “I have no husband,” she replied. Jesus said to her, “You are right when you say you have no husband. The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” (John 4:16–18)

Have you ever been the outcast? The person who was rejected by your family, excluded from your friend group, or divorced by your spouse? You are not alone.

The Samaritans were an outcast people, and one Samaritan woman was even outcast by the outcasts. Unlike the other women who would make the daily walk to the well each morning before the blazing heat of the day, this woman went to the well alone at noon because she was rejected, dejected, and unwanted.

Amazingly, the only person who sought her out for a relationship was Jesus Christ. Jews did not befriend Samaritans, men did not befriend women, and holy people did not befriend unholy people. Nonetheless, Jesus knew that she needed a healthy, holy, helpful relationship.

Perhaps an abuse victim whose father was either dead or a deadbeat, this woman had been divorced five times and was living with a man who did not give her the honor of making any marital commitment to her. Perhaps Jesus would have been the first man in her life to give to her instead of take from her.

This scene reveals an important principle. There are three main reasons why you cannot have healthy relationships until you first have a healthy relationship with Jesus.

One, you do not know what a healthy relationship is apart from Jesus. If your first relational priority is with Jesus Christ, then that relationship will establish the precedent for your other relationships.

Two, you cannot have your relational needs met by mere mortals. When you hand Jesus’ résumé to the people in your life and expect them to live by it, you set them up for failure. Jesus will not leave or forsake you, lie to you, run out of energy for you, nor fail you. No one else is able to be the Jesus in your life. Even good people who love you and do their best will fail you if you make them your Jesus.

Three, you do not have the tools for healthy relationships apart from Jesus. In His conversation with the Samaritan woman, Jesus spoke to her about the ministry of the Holy Spirit. It is the Holy Spirit who has been in perfect eternal relationship with God the Father and God the Son. It is the Holy Spirit who brings you the love and health of God so that you can love others in healthy relationships.

How is your relationship with Jesus? Is there anyone in your past or present who has tried to make you fill the relational role that only Jesus can fill? Is there anyone in your past or present whom you have tried to make your Jesus?

How do you make time to study the Bible together?

You know that studying the Bible together would be good for your family – but life keeps getting in the way.

It can be hard to make time to sit in the Word together, but the results are always worth it!

So get some tips from Grace and me on how you can figure out what works for you – and build habits to help you grow together in God’s Word.

How does the Holy Spirit meet your emotional needs?

Have you ever felt like your soul has a migraine? Everything’s way too loud and you need a break?

In those times, Jesus is just waiting to nurture and refresh you through His Holy Spirit.

Watch as Grace and I share some simple steps you can take to draw close to Him and have your deepest emotional needs met.